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08/14/2020 at 14:14 • Filed to: None
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"functionoverfashion" (functionoverfashion)
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This is a self-serving post, but aren’t all blog posts somewhat self-serving by definition? Doesn’t the author get some satisfaction out of other people reading and responding to his or her thoughts? Is there a such thing as true selfless philanthropy? How big is the universe, even? Why are we here?
Okay sorry I got off topic FAST there. That’s what I get for my minor in philosophy.
I’m leaving my job today, as I’ve mentioned here recently. I’m excited for my new job, for sure. But at the same time, I’m disappointed. I was in my previous job for 8 years and it was a hugely formative time for me. I went from just-out-of-college-naive to being married with one kiddo and 8 years of managing a small business under my belt. Ok, maybe 3 years of doing it well.
And on my last day, I walked out the door to zero fanfare. No send-off. No big meeting or even lunch out with everyone. I could have prompted that I guess, but I felt like it wasn’t MY place to do that for myself. I literally cried in my car after I left. I was also father to a 1-year-old so there were a lot of, uhh, emotions running around at that time.
So here we are, it’s 2:00 on a Friday on my last day at the job I’ve had since then - six and a half years - I’m planning to leave soon, and I expect nothing more than a “bye” from the admin answering the phones. I mean, this time there’s a goddamn pandemic and I don’t expect anything from anyone, but still. This kind of sucks. I’m writing personal emails to a few colleagues I haven’t seen in months, to say “bye here’s my cell and personal email, keep in touch” and it’s not easy.
At least I get to go home to my wife and kids, then get take-out to eat dinner in the boat. I might even indulge in an adult beverage or two.
Here’s to new adventures, Oppo.
Just Jeepin'
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 14:32 |
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I’m one of the world’s worst friends, so I’ve never been successful at keeping in touch with former co-workers. Even with Twitter as our water cooler , although I pretty much gave that up after the 2016 election.
Good luck with your new gig.
jeepoftheseus
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 14:35 |
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It’s an odd time for transitions. Enjoy it though and enjoy the time spent with family on the water. That’s a blessed way to be able to get back into neutral before you start the next adventure.
OhCrikeyTheRozzers
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 14:37 |
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Sorry to hear about your experience but here’s to new adventures. For what it’s worth, my last departure was from a similarly formative job —my first real job after school and I was there for six years—and had an almost identical last day. Mostly just HR formalities and returning tech. Don’t know about your situation but for me the place had changed so much it really didn’t resemble the company that hired me anymore and anybody that would have thought to throw a little party or something had long since left. Still expected some recognition for the years of very hard work I put in though, and it still sucked to leave like that. Anyway, onward and upward—a silver lining of an unceremonious departure is at least that it should make it a bit easier to move on.
Ash78, voting early and often
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 14:39 |
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It’s always bittersweet for everyone, a bit of sad “Sorry to see you go! ” and envious “Can’t believe you got out!”
The only coworker where I ever cheered at his departure ended up being my boss 3-4 years later — at my current job. He’s like a whole different person and we never talk about those years we spent together.
Long story short, professional relationships are much easier to keep up than personal ones.
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functionoverfashion
> Ash78, voting early and often
08/14/2020 at 14:43 |
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On that note I think I’m getting out at a good time. I was not feeling awesome about being employed by the residential life department of a budget-stretched public residential university. I don’t think I would have maintained full employment over the next 12 months, hell, I didn’t even make the summer (furlough for 4 weeks). I think a few people I’ve talked to have been envious for sure. I might be going to another school, but it’s a lot better funded.
nermal
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 14:57 |
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Ash78, voting early and often
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 15:06 |
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Are you having to move, or staying put? Working remotely forever or commuting to an office after covid?
Sorry, I’m always just fascinated at career options, especially for people who live outside of larger cities. I’m remote and we could move anywhere, but love our neighborhood and school system, and would have to pay twice as much in most of the US to get comparable quality.
Just be glad you’re not at a small, private liberal arts school. We lend to a few of those (I’m at a nationwide bank in loan risk management) and it hasn’t been pretty over the past few years. At least state-funded colleges still have the possibility of theoretically unlimited taxation, plus a broad pool of private donors. A lot of small private schools are hurting.
Brickman
> functionoverfashion
08/14/2020 at 16:34 |
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A new chapter in your life as I call it.
pip bip - choose Corrour
> functionoverfashion
08/15/2020 at 07:26 |
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good luck with the new job
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functionoverfashion
> Ash78, voting early and often
08/15/2020 at 08:09 |
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No moving, in fact, the school I’m going to is about 5 minutes from my house. The university I’m coming from was about 8 minutes. We are clearly in a good location, however, one of the things that makes it good is proximity to the highway, because beyond a handful of larger employers, far more jobs are available about 45 minutes away in the nearest “city” (Concord, NH).
So I’ll be teaching at a private high school, in person until we’re sent remote if/when it comes to that. We’re in a similar place where our neighborhood, really the whole town, is a place we love. The town has a lot of property on a nice lake with expensive second homes, so the tax base keeps our rates low while still providing nice services, roads, and in particular, school. People around here move into our town just to get their kids into the K-8 school.
I think the school I’m going to is pretty well-funded, and ironically, NH is terrible about funding public universities.